So I came to work looking a bit different. Got my hair braided. I love it for one, it looks good, but also I don’t have to get up in the morning and do it!! But a co-worker told me that I looked like “Rainbow Brite”. Now she was smiling when she said it. But I didn’t feel like it was a compliment. To me it sounded like a backhand compliment. “Correspondingly, a backhanded (or left-handed)compliment, or asteism, is an insult that is disguised as, or accompanied by, a compliment, especially in situations where the belittling or condescension is intentional.” (Wikipedia) I mean because if you like something someone is wearing or if you like their hair, you just say “Hey that’s cute” or “Hey I like that” But it was not said in that manner. So it makes me wonder…. why is it so hard for women to compliment each other without the insult? I could divide women and say black women, but I think it’s ALL women. Yes the co-worker is black. So that makes it even more of an insult.
Woman have insulted or plain hated each other for sometimes no reason. I’ve seen a female dislike another female on sight. And she never said a word. The instant dislike was there. Why is that? Are we in constant competition with each other? I would think not. There are things that people have that I want nothing to do with. But some others may feel there an invisible competition. It may be for most popular at work, for best dressed, for a male’s or even female’s attention! (I’m all for PC on my blog!!) But whatever the reason is…. women are always in competition with each other. It hurts to see how we tear each other down constantly. Most times it means that this woman has a quality that you wished you possessed. Instead of working on it for yourself, you dislike her.
What would happen if we looked at each other as allies instead of enemies? How much further would women be in this world? If we stood together and loved each other. You don’t even have to know a person to love them. Not with God’s love…. God’s love is unconditional and lasting. Just be friendly, just smile, just say hello! Or perhaps tell that young woman her hair is gorgeous, or that she looks awesome in that dress. Try complimenting another woman just because. She will either smile and thank you or look at you strange. But either way, you’ve express something positive to someone else. In the grand scheme of things, what could be wrong with that?????