I heard this song last week called “It takes a lot to know a man” by an Irish artist named Damien Rice. When I first heard it, I thought wow, this guy gets it!! It’s not just about what it takes to understand a man, but also to understand a woman. The chorus lets you know what is feels like to be totally and utterly devoted to knowing what it’s like to get to know another person. At least that is how I interpret it. You tell me …. “It takes a lot to give, to ask for help, to be yourself to know and love and what you live with. It takes a lot to breath, to touch, to feel the slow the reveal of what another body needs.” This sounds so difficult, yet so simple. The basis of any relationship is honesty and truth. Even if things are not perfect, we have to be willing to be completely transparent with each other.
There are many facets of a man. The father, son, warrior, hunter, little boy. It takes time to know each and every part. When we meet someone, we rush sometimes either trying to get to sex or to be able to let others know that we finally have a “friend!” Whatever the reason is, don’t let it distract you from the layers of a man. Don’t let it ruin the puzzle that is the sage, the man you may learn has wisdom and knowledge you need. To learn that he not only compliments you, but adores and treasures you. Don’t let it ruin the future with a man who will open his heart and emotions to you.
But it’s the same for us. It takes a lot to know a woman as Damien says the mother, the child, the honeybee that stings, the little girl with wings! Men say that it is the hardest thing to know what a woman wants. But it really isn’t that hard. We want and need you to listen, to spend time, to give that undivided attention. A woman treated like a treasure will be able to stand beside you and even behind you when you need someone to lean on. We have dreams that we want to share with you, dreams that we need to share. But only if you really want to know and not just for show to get a piece of ass and then you’re poof…. gone like the wind.
The bottom line is that unless you are really ready to do what it takes to really get to know someone, it’s best to just cruise for one nighters or just stay home until you’re ready. There are a lot of people out there getting hurt because honesty has gone astray. How difficult is it to be honest? Open your mind, open your heart to what is out there…. don’t be afraid to get to know the hunter, the muse.
****Special Credit to Damien Rice and his song “It takes a lot to know a woman”****